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Not maid for each other – a humorous account of maid problems

September 15, 2006


(picture drawn by my daughter on a penstand)

When the gaudily made-up gypsy with dazzling clothes stared into the make-shift crystal ball and muttered, ‘I predict dire trouble with maids,’ I laughed it off. After all, I was just a carefree college girl, come to the mela with giggling friends.
Ten years later when I arrived in Calcutta loaded with luggage, two under-sevens and a busy husband, what I needed the most was a maid. I had not had much luck with them earlier, but was hoping for a new beginning.
Cal, we were told, had it’s problems, but what it didn’t have was maid problems. Didn’t we know that Calcutta’s elite led a luxurious life with not one, but numerous help around the house? After roughing it out in cities like Delhi, Bombay, and Bangalore where domestic help play hard-to-get and are expensive to keep, I now looked forward to living in the lap of luxury.
In just three months I had gory tales to tell.
My first maid Roma was a real phataka. Her flashing eyes, swinging hips and fiery tongue were sufficient to have me sneaking around the house hoping I wouldn’t set off her hot temper. After a few days of this, I decided that I couldn’t live in mortal fear of a maid. So out she went.
The next one, Bula, was a villager. Her skeletal frame and servile demeanor aroused pity in me and I wanted to help this poor creature who had been thrown out of her home by an abusive husband. Sadly, she turned out to be a reluctant worker, and I realised she needed Mother Theresa, not me. So, out she went too.
As supply was never a problem, another landed up on my door-step within a few hours. Ratna she called herself. Pretty, well-dressed, and clean, she impressed me. And she lived up to the first impressions. She was good at her work, worked with a song on her lips and a smile on her face. Shaking off an uneasiness for which I couldn’t account, I started writing again.
Until one fine day, my husband Anil dropped a bombshell. Write all you want he said, but why do you need to drink so much? One litre of his finest scotch had dwindled to almost nothing in just three days! Suddenly everything came together in a flash. Ratna’s glazed eyes, idiotic grins…and extraordinary benevolence. Ofcourse, she had to go.
When I related this experience to my neighbour, she laughed. ‘Silly, they all steal. You should have locked up the scotch.’
I pouted. It wasn’t my fault. I had just hired the wrong people. Honest maids did exist.
Imagine how thrilled I was to discover that there was an agency which supplied maids, that too after informal training and police verification! Ignoring my neighbour’s scepticism, I called them. When they told me that I would get to interview one maid the very next day, I couldn’t stop smiling.
And so it happened that Mrs. Meetu Sarkar entered our home. She came from a respectable family she told me and with her expensive saree and subtle make-up, she looked it. I also liked her air of confidence and capability. However, it rapidly dawned on me that it wasn’t her interview, but mine.
‘Is your TV in the bedroom?’ she asked.
‘Er, yes,’ I said.
She frowned disapprovingly, and I thought she was going to refuse the job.
‘I can move it out,’ I ventured. ‘You will join, won’t you?’
She nodded. ‘Okay, but I have to make it clear that I won’t come on sundays as I work only six days a week And I never come before nine as I have to make my husband’s dabba.’
‘What about my husband’s dabba?’ I asked bravely.
‘That’s your job,’ she shot back.
I didn’t like her, but couldn’t tell her. Besides, I was desperate. So I kept her.
The TV was moved into the drawing room, but as the days passed I realised it was a minor sacrifice. Mrs. Meetu Sarkar was efficient, even with all her faults. She liked to decide when I should write, which television programmes I should watch and what we should eat. But she was a clean, and a hard worker. After a few months however, I couldn’t help confiding in my neighbour about her bullying tendency, but my neighbour felt it was all my fault.
‘Take charge, be strict!’ she advised. ‘Or one day that woman will run your whole life.’
I tried to change. I avoided chatting with the maid, pointed out every little mistake and shifted the TV back into the bedroom. No one was more thrilled than I when I realised that Meetu had become meek and quiet. And when she suddenly quit, no one was more puzzled than I.
It wasn’t my fault, I consoled myself. This was written in my stars. The gypsy had said so.

(Revised version of what appeared in The Telegraph, Calcutta)

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2 Comments leave one →
  1. Teresa permalink
    June 6, 2007 5:01 pm

    I have had about ten maids so far in four years in Morocco. I find that they are stubborn, want to do things their way all the time, and laugh at me when I get angry. I have five children and so much work, but most of the time we have more problems with maids than without. I think I shall live with my mess from now on, and say goodbye to maids

  2. chichi permalink
    November 10, 2007 9:43 pm

    i have problems with our helpers too.. although they help out most of the time. but they always wait for us to order. not the initiative type. their performance are just ok. every time we make orders and requests, they pout a lot. even if its just a simple one. and sometimes they do some minor “revenge” thing on us like, throwing away my toothbrush, some stuffs missing… purely childish immature stuffs.
    i don’t know what to do. they talk behind our backs, too. it’s too stressful. and they might have made negative comments about us when their away or at our home town. i felt betrayed. we just can’t kick them away coz the 2 of the helpers we’re sent to school by my aunt.


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