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Abandoned baby girls are finding homes in India

January 27, 2007

Achala Sachdev with Baby

Hundreds of baby girls are abandoned in India every year but at the same time there are people in this country who do want them. This trend is ofcourse confined to the elite and upper middle classes in metros. In fact it’s been wonderful to see the number of people wanting to adopt the baby girl who was left outside a railway station recently. It started with the choreographer and ex-model Achala Sachdev who wanted her (Mumbai Mirror), but soon after the requests started to pour in! The adoption agencies are delighted and hospital authorities quite overwhelmed. According to a social worker who was quoted in a Times of India report:

Earlier parents would make detailed enquiries about the background of a child. Just the fact that there are so many requests for a girl child in a patriarchal set-up is encouraging

In fact, because of the response, JJ Hospital had to restrict visitors. And after the mandatory of a period of three months before the baby is given for adoption (in case the birth mother turns up) the baby will find a loving home.
Some cynics might attribute this rush to adopt the girl to people’s sympathies being aroused by a poor abandoned baby. But from what I see around me there are many upper middle class Indian couples who actually prefer girls to boys. This trend started some years ago but is now growing steadily.
Two of my friends who adopted baby girls have this to say:
M, who could not have a biological child of her own tells me, “I love girls and that is why adoption worked so well for me.”
My other friend R, whose first child is biological (a son) said, “We wanted a girl and that is why we chose adoption.”
There is also one couple who preferred a girl because they felt that she would not claim the property! Well, whatever the motive, at least baby girls are finding a home in their birth country.
At one time baby girls from India had no choice but to be sent to foreign shores. As this article explains:

…international adoptees — particularly girls – (are) brought to the United States from countries such as India and China over the last two decades. In America, there are more than 1.5 million children who are international adoptees. Many of these children have been adopted by a multiracial family. During the 1980s and 1990s, airplanes with malnourished Indian baby girls — two to a wicker basket – landed regularly at the Minneapolis airport. It is much more common for girls to be adopted than boys, largely because of long-standing traditional practices, like dowry, that make girls an economic liability for poor families.

(Photo sourced from the Times of India)
Related Reading: Adoptions in India – How to go about it
Foreigners coming to India to find surrogate mothers
In India sons are preferred
Single mothers here face an uphill task
Female to male sex ratio in India

15 Comments leave one →
  1. January 28, 2007 3:05 am

    Great post and the way you accept all motivations for adopting a girl, gives me great heart. I have a friend(her family hails from India) who will also find this a hopeful trend. She is a busy woman, nurse and mother who might find this blog of yours useful to help her 15 year old daughter have some insight into the culture from which her mother’s family came.

  2. baruna permalink
    July 13, 2007 2:32 pm

    hi nita

    is it true that i cannot adopt a baby girl if i already adopted one ? seems such a waste to queue up for a boy for 3-4 years when i am not even partial to wanting one .
    do you think renuka chaudhary could be prevailed on to change this rule and allow willing families to adopt more than one baby girl ?

  3. July 13, 2007 2:47 pm

    As far as I know the rule only applies if one has a biological child of the same sex. So I think you should apply to adopt another baby girl…and ofcourse talk to an expert. And I am not one.
    If there is such a rule, well, I think you will do the right thing by appealing against it. You will have to go to court though.

  4. March 30, 2008 11:05 am

    Need to know the address of last night program on CNN March 29th “Special on abandoned baby girls and abortions in India close to Dheli

  5. Nirmal permalink
    August 27, 2008 12:54 pm

    I want to adopt a baby girl at the earliest.Someone please help me.Actually I do not know the right person or place to contact.

    You can read this post. – Nita.

    • K N M KRISHNA permalink
      May 27, 2010 10:50 pm

      hi Nirmal, You have not given your state of residence. I will drop the address.

  6. Kiranmai permalink
    January 7, 2010 4:17 pm

    iwant to adopt a baby girl at the earliest.Someone please help me.Actually I have applied at Director of Women Development and Child Welfare, Hyderabad three years back, but till date they did not give me. They told that they dont have baby girls now. So from where can i get one?
    All the process took me more than a year and finally i did not get to adopt one girl. i am well educated, financially well with a good job and assets. All the verifications havebeen done by the department also.
    Please help me.

    • K N M KRISHNA permalink
      May 27, 2010 10:43 pm

      We are having 2 Boilogical children both are boys one 17yrs and other is 14yrs we applied for a baby girl in the age group of 3-5yrs for adoption on 10/02/09 with adoption cell Child Welfare department, Govt. of Andhra Pradesh Hyderabad. I had been handed over my daughter on 14/05/2010. They claimed that it was delayed as already I am having 2 sons. Contact them in person. Smt. Shyam Sundari is nice lady she attends to you. by the way what is the age of baby proposing to adopt? If it is less than a year it may take 3 yrs as they said. So try with baby of 3-5 yrs group. It will be the earliest.

  7. K N M KRISHNA permalink
    May 27, 2010 12:22 am

    Dear Nita,
    We are having 2 Boilogical children both are boys one 17yrs and other is 14yrs we applied for a baby girl in the age group of 3-5yrs for adoption on 10/02/09 with adoption cell Child Welfare department, Andhra Pradesh we have received a letter from them in november 2009 for verification of residece etc. and we were invited to choose a baby in january, 2010 and after several meetings finally they handed over child 14/05/2010. Now we have a daughter and our sons got little sis. She getting accostumed to us with snail’s pace. We are celebrating her welcome function on 13/06/2010. Please wish her a bright future. I will update frequently the happings with her in our family.

    That’s good to hear Mr. Krishna. I wish you and your little daughter all the best in life. – Nita

  8. May 6, 2011 7:36 am

    thank you for your uplifting post(:)
    I pray they change their ideas on baby girls in India ..
    a terribly sad a situation …
    they need to remove the dowery idea
    and give the females a fair chance at life there.
    thank goodness for the people who adopt them
    and help these little precious babies~(:)

  9. meera.k permalink
    July 30, 2011 12:59 am

    i want to adopt a baby. no preference any gender… very unhappy, disheartened, dissatisfied with the india laws and procedure for adoption and the adoption agencies… even the babies are rejected or are not suitable for any families in queue, still they wont give it you… its really sad and painful to see such babies suffer in these “agencies” and “ashrams”. Why this adoption procedure cant be as fast as passport application procedure..some ashrams or agencies recieve 1 child every night, but still they make this procedure so lenghty and keep the babies with them to suffer. most of the babies stay in these places with no care, love for 1 – 2 years. WHY CANT THESE AGENCIES WORK EFFICIENTLY AND SPEEDILY FOR PROVIDING THESE BABIES A SUITABLE FAMILY AND HOME.

  10. kALAY GOVENDER permalink
    May 14, 2012 8:36 pm

    HI. I am looking to adopt a baby girl from India. i prefer a girl less than a year but a year and a few months is ok as well. I live in South Africa. Can someone please let me know what to do.

  11. Shoba ? permalink
    May 27, 2013 12:07 am

    Hi, I am based in India, I have gone though your information posted , I am very keen in adopting a baby girl less than a year. It’s been 7 years of my marriage and I do not have a biological child . Kindly help me to raise a child through your guidance ..awaiting for your response.

  12. Heather permalink
    November 30, 2013 2:48 pm

    Hello I’m a 27 year old single woman looking to adopt a baby from south India I live in Australia can you give me some information on how I can adopt a baby from south India and bring baby back to live with me.

  13. Mr. Nagesh Shrivastav permalink
    December 6, 2013 5:52 pm

    I want to adopt a baby girl at the earliest.Someone please help me.Actually I do not know the right person or place to contact.

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