Indians are more traditional than other peoples
I posted the photo-essay this morning and then was delighted when I saw this headline in the newspaper: Indian family values intact. I am going to write about it briefly here.
A Kantar Media study has said that Indians are very attached to their families and family values pervade. This is what the survey said:
Findings go on to demolish the popular TV fed misconception of Indian being a decadent society with sons and daughters throwing out old, crusty parents and wives and husbands switching partners…
Actually all Indians already know this, except for those who are living far away and/or those who are hooked on to soap operas. I have written a post on the reverence that Indians feel for their old here.
The low divorce rate in India as compared to the rest of the world I have written about here but as the post (and its comments) reveal this low divorce rate is more because of traditional family values which make divorce unacceptable.
Other interesting findings from the survey:
1. Less than 1 percent of Indians live alone, and this is in keeping with the norm in most Asian countries.
2. 76 percent of Indians feel that it is important for their family to think that they are doing well in life. This is against world trends. While Brazil is similar to India in this aspect (74 percent of Brazilians feel their family’s opinion is important) in countries such as Hungary the figure is 20 percent, in Germany 33, Great Britain 37, Spain 40, Poland 44, France 46, USA 51, Russia 65, and Sweden and Kenya 67.
3. Over 50 percent of the parents want their children to move ahead in life, even if it means great pressure on the family. This is in keeping with trends in countries like the U.S. However the figures are 63 percent in China and 33 percent in Germany.
Actually this sticking to tradition thingie may not always be a good thing as the figures on divorce show. Approval of the community, society and family is so required for most Indians that they tend to suffer silently rather than disturb the pattern. So what one needs is to reach a balance…where individuals are able to seek happiness and at the same time familial values are not destroyed. Maybe such an ideal does not exist anywhere in the world. Or even if it does, it probably does not last…its like a see-saw. One goes to one extreme and then that extreme makes the society realise that they need to change and they start coming back to the middle…but there is a danger that they may go to the other extreme. I don’t know. I am not a sociologist but human behavior is fascinating to me as it is to most people, and I guess we can never find explanations for everything. The only solution is to try and find a balance in our own lives and not get totally dependent on what others think…