Sex Surveys and research tell us how badly India needs sex education
Call it teen marriage or “legal” teenage sex, but what it results is in teenage pregnancy. It underlines the need for sex education in India, more so than in other countries. Half of India’s women marry before the age of 18 and about 18 percent are married even before the age of 15! Even if they want to, these young girls and their young inexperienced husbands cannot always prevent pregnancies. One wonders how much they know about sex, contraceptives, or the bad health effects of pregnancy on young teens.
Despite all this staring at it in the face India shows little signs of shedding its conservatism about sexual matters. Survey after survey, year after year, tells us that the majority of young Indians get their sex education from friends and from porn.
A recent global survey confirms that only 52 percent of Indians felt that there is “enough” advice and information available on sex. One is not sure whether people from rural India are included in this survey, but the lack of information is bound to be worse there.
The survey showed that most Indians rely on their friends (59 per cent) for sexual knowledge, followed by magazines (58 per cent). The internet is also one of the major sources of information among those who have received sex education (60) and who have not (46). Books are another major source of information for Indians.
Only 18 percent said they had recieved any sort of guidance from their parents.
The survey also revealed that almost half of the men interviewed did not use condoms regularly. Out of this group, 24.3 percent never use condoms at all, while 4.5 percent don’t do so because they say the women bear the contraceptive burden. Others say they use condoms only occasionally.
A four-year study on 500 students, by MAMTA, has indicated that sex education can be very useful in not just improving the health of young girls but also in controlling the birth rate. Four schools in Haryana participated in this study (2004), two in urban Rewari, and two in rural Bawal. After they received the sex education classes, as many as 78 percent of the rural girls and 33 percent of the urban girls said that they would “decline sex without a condom”. Before the classes, only about 5 percent of the rural schoolgirls and 10 percent of the urban ones had any awareness of condoms.
Hypocrisy pervades our government as it kow tows to those who are against sex education. People who feel that children turning to pornography for information, or teenage pregnancies or child abuse is the lesser evil. Recently, an article in the Guardian, UK, expressed its bafflement over India’s stand on sex education. It quoted a parliamentary committee saying that India’s “social and cultural ethos are such that sex education has absolutely no place in it.” This despite damning statistics which tell us of the high rate of teenage pregnancies, and high rate of child sex abuse.
I will end this post from a quote from the Guardian article by Anindita Sengupta in which she gives her reasons as to why India has puritanical and hypocritical attitude towards sex:
…it has its roots in deep-seated emotions that are closely entangled with centuries of religious and cultural mores. Leaders from Buddha to Gandhi demonised sex, it was seen as something evil or dirty, something to be avoided, controlled or condemned. Add to that elements of prudish patriarchy, peevish ignorance and paranoid imaginings about cultural colonisation and you have a mess of dysfunctional views with regard to sex.
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why only young husbands… even the older ones have their myths which are detrimental not only to them but their partners too!! how do you otherwise explain the flourishing of illegal “sex clinics” run by quacks or the “tent dawakhana” run by some “yogis” in india!!
btw “happy” world AIDS day!!
I don’t know what it is with us Indians – we would rather die of AIDS and overpopulation than talk about sex…Idiocy rules!
Concur with Bones.
Discussing and talking about sex is still a taboo that kids who are molested don’t have the guts to tell their parents because they think that they are responsible for it in a way. If only parents could let children know the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touching and encouraged children to immediately complain, we could avoid many such situations.
Having said that I am not comfortable with the type of sex education in some American schools. I think a 12 year old is sometimes subjected to way too much information through demonstration that they keep talking about it for days. In the end making them curious.
I think the whole thing is summed up well in the last… Sex is seen as dirty here and govt didn’t want to take steps to educate the students about this… 😦 i
Excellent post, Nita. We had sex-ed in my school when we were in 9th grade and I saw for myself how much it helped. For almost everyone, it was the first time people were talking openly about sex, and were allowed to. I was shocked to discover that nobody had been given a sex talk by their parents either, even though they were from well-educated families where both parents worked. Clearly our taboo about sex is all pervading, and not just in rural and middle class families.
Well I don’t think the majority in my college are properly educated…And yes we need sex education, all that happens is that politicians and “leaders” use these things(by either supporting or by being against) to gain control over others..social ethos do form a part of our culture, but the law can be still be there..if ethos want to restrict, then they can do it through some other way..
Seriously good one! Last week, a kid comes up to me and asks for a condom! I mean, first of all, I was offended that he thought I had an extra condom, and secondly, I was offended that he saw me as some kind of condo dispenser! Thirdly, the kid was barely 15, so kinda made me happy in the knowledge that at least he’s being careful! 😀
PS: I’m back! Ignore the comment! I was rambling! 😀
There must be people among the decision makers who are modern and sensible and have a capacity for responsible decision making. What baffles me is how the other breed of prudes can have all the say in 21st century-decision making in India. Would honestly like to know.
I think with the current generation relying more on the internet for information, they are well literate on this subject, if they visit the right websites 😀 . But the poor and illiterate are the ones who badly needs awareness.
But then our politician babus treat the subject as a strict no-no in schools. Also the teachers find it difficult to talk about it in class. I still remember how the teacher was embarrassed and avoided questions during the Human reproduction class back in high school. She also shouted and warned the students who giggled that she will fail them.
I think the ‘adults’ should be mature when they deal with the subject as well 🙂
in my teens we relied to tits bits heard from here and there.
proper sex education with open discussions is a must for all the growing up young ones
and it should start from the age of 8 onwards
So we’re not too different from the middle east in this aspect, are we?
“Leaders from Buddha to Gandhi demonised sex, it was seen as something evil or dirty, something to be avoided, controlled or condemned. Add to that elements of prudish patriarchy, peevish ignorance and paranoid imaginings about cultural colonisation and you have a mess of dysfunctional views with regard to sex.”
Nita, here the ignorance of Anindita Sengupta about the role of sex in Indian society of the past is on full display. What she ascribes to India is a reflection of British mores when they colonised India, which ironically, the Brits of today are likely to think as weird. Anyone who has even a rudimentary knowledge of Mahabharat would know that sex wasn’t considered dirty and there are numerous stories and incidents which show that the characters were anything but prudish. Hinduism has kama (pleasure) as one of the four duties of a Hindu, along with artha, dharma and moksha, and if a society comes up with a book like Kama Sutra, I doubt that it considers sex dirty or immoral, or feels guilt over it. I don’t really see anything shameful about sex as described in Hindu philosophy (what little I know about it) – sex, in the proper context and at the right age, has a meaningful place in the lives of people. The current state of sexual affairs is a reflection of how Indians and Hindus are unaware of what their own philosophies say about it. As for Buddha and Gandhi, I’m not sure how much influence their views/practices on sex have had on Indians today, though I would wager that Ms. Sengupta is likely exaggerating that influence. In Buddhism as well as in Hinduism, the monk who takes a vow of celibacy, does so not because sex is considered dirty or “demonic” – I believe Ms. Sengupta is mixing up the concepts from Abrahamic religions with Indic ones. And abstinence from sex is not for all – only for monks, who also have a long list of abstentions unrelated to sex.
Amit, isn’t it possible that she was referring to more modern times? In ancient times sex may not have been a dirty word and surely she must know that. At the same time I think we Indians (me included) tend to cling on to our beautiful ancient culture and use that to prove many points. The truth is Amit, that the glory has long gone. About your point on Buddhism I am not very knowledgeable. However I think I agree with you about demonic being the wrong word. I think these religions were more into mind over body kind of thing. That is what my limited knowledge tells me.
Nita, she did mention Buddha and Gandhi – as well as this: “it has its roots in deep-seated emotions that are closely entangled with centuries of religious and cultural mores. “ – no mention of British mores on sexuality which are much more responsible for the current attitudes towards sex in modern India.
I’m not talking about past glory (I don’t care for such things) – I’m merely pointing out the error in Ms. Sengupta’s analysis where she incorrectly ascribes the roots of current attitudes towards sex in India to centuries of religion (no prize for guessing which one), Buddha and Gandhi, and not to the British, or for that matter, Christianity which has the concept of “original sin” as well as guilt over sex. I mean, Gandhi’s experiments in his twilight years of sleeping naked with young girls are hardly ever discussed or mentioned in India – such is the hold of Gandhi hagiography. And, the concepts of kama, artha, dharma and moksha in Hindu philosophy are not about past glory. As I said before, Ms. Sengupta’s ignorance about the roots of current sexual attitudes is quite appalling.
Amit, I guess you are right, it’s just that I could not help feeling that surely she must know about our ancient culture. How could she not? I mean a lot of foreingers do, and she isn’t even a foreigner. Anyway, I kind of glossed over the word “centuries” I don’t know how.
Nita: You perhaps saw that the article appeared in the Guardian’s “Comment Is Free” column. It is like a big speak-easy and columnists often just have opinions, rarely a burden of proof or the need to make informed or logically consistent commentary. Amit’s comments are spot-on and the polar opposite of the said columnist’s. She lives in Bangalore by the way so I don’t know why a mention of ‘foreigners’ is warranted.
Many religious ceremonies in Hinduism include sexual allusions. Indeed Shiva is often represented just as a phallic icon and nothing more. Then there are the carvings of Khajuraho which depict all the 4 life stages but are most famous for their sexual imagery.
Amit, one of those rare posts where I agree with you on every word.
if sex is not dirty then why should the sanyasins take celibacy vows?
sex is materialistic and they were not worried about their body and they were only worried about their soul ..
you guys better stick with your area of expertise..
don’t poke into religion..
believe me, its too heavy for you.. especially hindu philosophy..
We indians don’t respect our culture, our history, our religions… we don’t even know it..
we simply follow the west blindly… and their ideas.. and its so fun, so easy to accept..
while Gandhi, Bhudha- ideas not so easy, and not so fun.. so you better stick with west..
don’t comment on something which you dont know ..
Dear Truth Seaker,
If sex is so ‘dirty’, how were you born? Imagine, if all were to take up celibacy, this would be the last human generation. I believe any religion or belief system that says that sex is ‘dirty’ then it should provide an alternate to it so that there can be procreation.
Finally, not all that was written thousands of years ago is wisdom just like not all that is written today is trash. There were thinkers long ago, there are, there will be. We as a human race will advance only if we accept new knowledge and ideas.
Best
nvn
correction:
….and if a society came up with a book like Kama Sutra, I doubt that it considered sex dirty or immoral, or felt guilt over it.
Can anybody open institute for Sex education/counselling?
Is that legal?
Hey Nimmy, welcome! 🙂 I was waiting for your third comment though! 😀
Sakhi, True, true, these sex clinics are everywhere! And about world aids day, yeah, timely post wasn’t it! 😉
sraboneyghose, idiocy and hypocrisy!
Kanagu, well, I think if this prudishness continues we will have to open up a sex institute, Bharath’s idea!!
Purpler, true, young people want to talk about sex openly and ask questions, but they have nowwhere to go, except online!
Vishesh, yeah I agree. It is a way to try and please some vote bank or the other. Good point.
Nikhil, comment ignored! 🙂 Used to it huh? 🙂
Laxmi, my guess is lack of education is playing a big role amongst the masses. I doubt that they even know the history of India properly.
Xylene, well, good thing you said “right” sites. Because ignorance is better than checking some perversions on the net and thinking its normal!
Anju, why 8, I think as soon as they start asking questions. Tell it little by little so there is no formal lecture.
Vinod, I think we are. Because our society being more open, there are groups and individuals and certain lucky sections of society which break the norms.
Bharath, you will have all the right wing organisations burning it down, even if it is legal.
No third comment as I myself don’t know what to comment…I have no idea of what sex education is all about,i mean,as it is discussed in schools,so i don’t know if it is good or bad..
I think parents have a greater role in educating their children than schools. Children might feel more comfortable asking things to someone they know well rather than some teacher in class who’s probabaly obseesed over completing classes on schedules.
Should be obsessed and schedule
When I was in high school, we used to have an yearly-once class, separate for boys and girls, given by a gynec/urologist from the nearby medical college. It was more about “growing up”, preventing diseases and general hygiene than sex education per se. But still cleared up a lot of doubts during the Q&A session. It really helped that the person giving the talk was not a teacher we will be seeing the next day, but an impersonal doctor who (we felt) knew more about it.
That sounds like a plan every school can use to teach sex education in class and then they can leave the students to approach the resident teacher one-on-one for any questions that remain unanswered after the guest speaker has left. Teachers are usually very uncomfortable teaching sex in class.
It actually boils down to simple fact.Unless we ensure education for all including sex education even for the girls,we will continue to read only surveys .
We can not expect the Govt to act on this issue because of the fear of losing a certain vote bank.They are justified as their only aim is vote-note -rule, without any responsibility, social or otherwise.
Govt may never agree to sex education in the schools. I would have expected a man like Sibal to at least make an effort or try to open avenues for a public debate.I can see his priorities.
Unfortunately,the parents are too shy to even talk of sex to their children,forget their teaching them the basics.
In rural areas, less said the better.
In my opinion,the sex awarness should start in the villages by the Panchayat and it may perhaps spread elsewhere.
But without education,there will be no hope.
Hi Nita, I am normally a silent reader of your excellent posts, but decided to put in my five paisa worth since today’s topic is one which is very close to my heart. Especially being a mom of two daughters !
In addition to all that you write, what I find of equally great concern is the over-the-counter availability of the 72 hour pills, which I feel would encourage teenagers to throw care and caution further out the windows ! I am worried Nikhil’s happiness of seeing that 15 year old kid being careful might become a thing of the past !
Maybe I am being hyper-reactive here (I already gave my excuse – two daughters !) but now I feel the need to sex education is greater than our teenage days (more than 20 years ago !)
Let’s build khajuraho like old hindu temples with more practical info on the walls with an idol at the center… No-one will object… 🙂
Wow…that sounds like a genius idea – this may just work.
I reckon the trick to introduce a change in Indian society is to make the change seem like as if it is instituted by the gods.
I wish this could be done tactfully through family planning and welfare centres, and hospitals. Booklets with clearly given information to be made compulsory for the couple when they marry. And once the book is ‘allowed’ to be printed, it would soon find it’s way where ever there is curiosity. Just wondering … because I agree we have some well meaning souls who would rather children were abused and teenagers got pregnant than sex education was made readily available. I read somewhere that many politicians think Sex Education is Blue films!
Or we should simply stop calling it ‘sex education’ – it should be included in Biology or even Moral Science or Science, until it can be taught the way it should be.
I agree that our culture thinks of sex as something dirty. Gandhi (and I am fan, and live by his views on Satya and Ahimsa, vegetarianism etc.) did think of sex as a dirty and avoidable vice – and when well known and admired people say something like this – they reinforce our concepts of sex as something bad.
With so many teen pregnancies, and advertisements for magical cures for related myths, India definitely needs to talk and learn about sex.
Very relevant post Nita!
“Gandhi (and I am fan, and live by his views on Satya and Ahimsa, vegetarianism etc.) did think of sex as a dirty and avoidable vice – and when well known and admired people say something like this – they reinforce our concepts of sex as something bad.”
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IHM, I’ll have to disagree. When people uncritically and blindly accept what “well-known and admired people” say because these people are “well-known and admired” and not because what they say makes sense, that’s what reinforces bad attitudes (though reinforcing implies the attitudes were already present in the first place). BTW, Gandhi’s views on sex were considered as eccentric/off-beat even when he was alive and didn’t really find many buyers. The impact of Gandhi’s views on sex, on people’s attitudes today, is minimal if any. At least I haven’t seen any evidence that his views were a. well-known, and b. accepted by an overwhelming majority of people to the extent that these views are responsible for the current attitudes.
Agree with Amit again. If Gandhi’s views on sex were shared here it would make the women of this blog blush.
Could not agree more on the lack of education. This is a very delicate situation. Such talks can be a source of misuse as well. I believe that good literature and parental guidance is the most trustworthy. I do not know if we can trust anyone else at all. With the enormous number of sexual abuse that normal teachers themselves conduct, I am not sure whether we could have a foolproof system for sex education.
Lack of sex education is indeed a big issue in our society. For the weirdest of reasons, it is cited as being against our culture – while totally ignoring the fallout of such beliefs. Especially with issues like sexual abuse, I think it is important that sex education is part of a child’s education and is imparted in a sensible and sensitive manner.
There are a lot of western movies that are shown these days which imply that sex is the most important and happiest activity in human life! To a youngster, such false impressions are easily registered in mind. Practicing sex during teenage is definitely not safe with or without sex education.
Our religion teaches us to be more balanced people, and we can do well without the careless representation by people like Ms. Sengupta.
Its unfortunate that even today sex is considered a taboo subject. Even now parents switch channels the minute an ad on AIDS or Condoms is shown on TV to avoid any questions from their children. I strongly feel as much as it is necessary to bring about sex education in educational institutions,it is also very important that every parent understands its significance and implications and starts imparting it to their children. Talking about sex needs to be a part of a conversation in every household. Its high time we understood its not something to be shunned or disregarded.
A very relevant post,Nita.
I believe your article is timely and relevant. Few adults choose to deal with their own discomfort when it comes to speaking about sexuality with their children. The result in America has been many young people who do not understand what they are risking by having unprotected sex. Their whole reproductive future and their health for life can be compromised by a single hormone driven act.
When it comes to religious taboos I don’t know if your are aware of the American situation or not. Under the former Bush Administrations the federal government doled out $170 -$190 million dollars annually to agencies and schools that are were compelled to teach abstinence only, rather than comprehensive sex education that includes teaching about sexually transmitted diseases. Worse still is that the former Administrations under Bush tied foreign aid funding in countries like Africa where AIDS is rampant to rules that prevented agencies that taught comprehensive sex education from receiving federal funds. Consequently, what was exported to sub-Saharan Africa by the religious organizations professing to teach “sex education” was ignorance ie. abstinence only programming.
The United States continues to have one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the developed world—almost twice as high as those of England, Wales and Canada, and eight times as high as those of the Netherlands and Japan. Every year, roughly nine million new sexually transmitted infections (STIs) occur among teens and young adults in the United States. Compared with rates among teens in Canada and Western Europe, rates of gonorrhea and chlamydia among U.S. teens are extremely high.
Using data from a 2002 national survey, researchers found that among more than 1,700 unmarried, heterosexual teens between 15 and 19 years old, those who’d received comprehensive sex ed in school were 60 percent less likely to have been pregnant or gotten someone pregnant than teens who’d had no formal sex education. There was no evidence that comprehensive sex education increased the likelihood of teen sex or boosted rates of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) — a concern of people who oppose teaching birth control in schools.
In 2007 according to a long-awaited study mandated by Congress, students who participated in sexual abstinence programs were just as likely to have sex as those who did not participate in the programs. Also, those who attended one of the four abstinence classes that were reviewed reported having similar numbers of sexual partners as those who did not attend the classes, and they first had sex at about the same age as their control group counterparts — 14.9 years, according to Mathematica Policy Research Inc.
Love is an action word and IMHO parents who refuse to provide their children of full and factual information about sexuality, reproduction and sexually transmitted diseases before they become sexually active are not acting with love.
rags, can’t help but agree, parents sure have a greater role. They can do or undo anything the school does.
Nisha, that’s the advantage of sex education I guess. One might feel embarrassed discussing with parents or asking questions.
Shefaly, I didn’t notice that about the comment free column but I think that India’s ancient history is something so well known that she could not possibly have not known it. Thats what I think. I think she knew it but deliberately avoided referring to it.
BK Chowla, that panchayat level thing is a very interesting and excellent point. One has to go to the grassroots to change the system!
Parama, thanks for taking the trouble to comment! I appreciate it and always yearn for more silent readers to give their take. However when it comes to the pill I think that by itself will not influence sexual habits. It depends on one’s environment and also one can have a talk with one’s kids and talk of the harm of these 72 hour pills. Not a moral lecture, but the physical harm of taking them.
Bharath, I love your suggestions! We can have a sex museum, which I think exists in some countries.
Solilo, thats interesting, about the American schools sex education. But maybe it is geared for the American population which have different sexual habits than Indians who have gone there.
Vinod, it’s the teachers job and they can always find teachers who do it scientifically.
Indian Homemaker, I agree with you that Gandhi thought of sex as something dirty. In fact that is what I think Anindita Sengupta was trying to say, but unfortunately she said it in a way that invited a lot of criticism. I think our modern, post independence and even pre independence leaders have done nothing to lift this veil of secrecy surrounding sex.
Lakshmi, India has a long way to go to implement these things.
Smitha, agreed!
Deeps, thats a nice phrase, sex education being a part of quiet conversation in every household, talking about it as normally as one talks of one’s other needs. I hope this happens, at least to some extent in our society one day.
Timethief, no I didn’t know that bit about what the Bush government was doing and I am a little taken aback that they were so prudish. As if such a thing is going to work anyway! I don’t know why people don’t understand that it is impossible to stop young people from having sex! Whether in the US or in India. In the US they will be more open, here they will be more secretive, but what the heck, you cannot stop raging hormones!
While I do agree that it is impossible to stop all young people from behaving rashly (raging hormones as you said) I’m sure that most teens would behave sensibly if given the right guidance. They can be encouraged to take part in sports and other outdoor activites if only to divert their energies temporarily and also keep them fit.
On an entirely different note I’d say that schools need to cater to the spiritual growth of an individual which will actually help them develop as well rounded individuals and keep the rash beaviour in check. I’ve started reading the Gita of late and it has brought to me an entirely different perspective, a wholly different world, something which I wish I had during my school days. Schools need to encourage children to grow spiritually, something which is crucial for peace of mind in a materialistic world.
Education and communication is the key in this sensitive issue.
Sex education is very much required. My friend and colleague, a well qualified, about to be married girl asks me – The thing shown in Dostana movie exists in foreign only na?
Parents too are responsible for keeping girls “protected” from exposure to knowledge about sex thinking it will spoil them. Result is ignorance which leads to other problems.
Yes in India Sex education is taboo subject. Lack of sex education in youth so they are leads many misconception & sexual superstition in their mind. Many many married people r unhappy dew to misconception about sex. It is important that people know true scientific information about sex.
I’d question the results of the survey. Who decides how much is ‘enough’? Chances are, the person who thinks he/she knows ‘enough’ about sex knows very little. In India, magazines and friends are the worst sources for sex education, since the people who are supposed to educate know very little themselves.
And by the way, expecting parents to talk to their kids on the subject isn’t very feasible since they are not very well versed or comfortable on the subject either, beyond the essentials.
You ignore lot of other facts about sex education..Out-of-wedlock birth rates have shot up in US to nearly 40 percent now, with European countries like Sweden faring even worse(66 pc!), and other countries around 30-40pc. Sex education has been in the countries for years now, and yet these out-of-wedlock births are increasing every year! What’s the reason behind it?
Without a spiritual or moral bedrock to stand on, sex education might make the matters only worse. Worser still is the fact that we are looking towards the West to provide us a standard by which sex education can be imparted. Can the moral failings of Western societies be ignored when we deal with such a important issue? Shouldn’t we have education of ethics, values and morality prioritized over the education of sexuality? Yet this aspect of the debate is conveniently ignored because its a hard thing to push forward, compared to sex education.
We need not ape the West in every aspect of our life – our else we will too end up in a state where we will have to deal with catastrophe of unwed, school going mothers – which is too common in American landscape now – but sadly no political or civil group talk of solving – because it involves the issue of morals, and ethics in the realm of sexuality.
Rags has a great point about spiritual education – in fact it might do more to solve the present problems of India than sex education – sex education cannot build character – a spiritual education surely will.
I think that sex education is required in India because it’s after effects could prevent the dangers of teen pregnancy. I go to a school outside of India, where sex education is implemented into our curriculum. The teachers tell us about contraceptives and AIDS and STD’s. These definately need to be tought more in India and the issue shouldn’t be thought of as “touchy” or “awkward”.
Its true either India have advance in most of the fields but today also it backward in case of sex education. Even if we try sex education cannot be part f r system .Parents have so hesitation in taking about sex with there children as they think its against there customs .sex education should be given in schools and youth should be made more aware about sex. In foreign countries sex education is the part of there curricular activity. Teenage pregnancy is one of the side effect of youth not aware about sex education……….
american college unmarried couple 21 that business sends to north india – lodging with single 50 year old oofficial is arranged for 4 years. The man allowed no physical contact between them. Due to differing shift schedule the official has pressured the woman saying he is head of the house and it is her duty to provide companionship and how he could have the boys visa revoked..This is blackmail and because of fear and naivity she has given in to the mans demands but at an emotional toll.
No need of sex edu.. For india coz many people against this as taboo topic., everyday rape case use to be on newspaper and they consider these as sex edu.., in this way they learn more and improve to rape. What a useless people we indian are to against the teach of sex edu..! Only Stupid people against the sex edu.